Problems with the intimate sphere of life reach men regardless of age, origin, place of residence. They may appear regardless of whether we are single or in a long-term relationship. When we encounter a problem of a sexual nature, we usually first try to solve it on our own. However, it is not always possible to overcome difficulties without the help of a specialist. Sex and sexuality are still taboo, many of us have been brought up with the feeling that it is an embarrassing subject that should not be talked about. Such cultural beliefs lead to the fact that in adulthood we are not able to open up even in front of a sexologist. So how to overcome the shame of visiting a sexologist?
Name the problem and talk about it out loud in front of yourself
Very often the words that you are ashamed of don’t even want to go through your throat. This can be a serious setback when you visit a sexologist. In order not to waste precious time during the visit, it is worth before the visit to familiarize yourself with saying words that are difficult for you. Chances are you’ve never even said them before, and getting over it and saying them out loud can be very freeing and help you feel more comfortable talking to your therapist. Getting used to talking about your problem, even just in front of yourself, can also help normalize the problem and overcome shame. If you feel that the problem you want to go to a sexologist about is actually nothing bad and nothing scary, it will be much easier to reap the full benefits of therapy
Treat a sexologist like any other doctor
When going to an orthopedist, you’re not ashamed that you sprained your ankle; when visiting your family doctor, having a cold is nothing to be ashamed of either. Try to treat complications in your intimate life the same way. You can be sure that the sexologist you need to open up to has heard many far stranger stories than yours over the years. If you approach therapy as you would any other visit to a specialist, it will be much easier for you. Besides, many problems can be solved in just a few appointments. It may be enough for your doctor to recommend a good potency medication or to tell you how to change a few habits to get your sex life back on track. Or it may be that the problem lies elsewhere and the sexologist will refer you to the right doctor.
Talk about the problem with your partner before you see the sexologist
Many of us have trouble talking about very intimate matters with a complete stranger. If this is a major barrier for you, before visiting a sexologist, try talking about your difficulties with the person you should be talking about sex with anyway. Having an honest conversation with your partner/partner about what issues you’re struggling with can be very freeing and help you break through to bring up uncomfortable topics. A partner is usually the most trusted person, and besides, sexuality issues that one person struggles with actually affect both sides of the relationship. If one person should be taking potency medication, for example, but isn’t, it’s a difficult situation for their other half as well. Talking frankly will help you to get used to talking about your problem in a safe environment, and the other person’s support will make it easier for you to take the first steps towards getting over your shame.
It is understandable that visiting a sexologist is unfortunately associated with shame for many people. Breaking taboos is not an easy task to face. Don’t give up your health and happiness by being reluctant to have difficult conversations. Seeing a sexologist when you are struggling with the topic of sex is just as important as going to a cardiologist for heart problems. Don’t downplay problems because they won’t resolve themselves. Overcome your shame and consult your problem with a specialist.
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